Tuesday, May 01, 2007

Tzniut Meme

(photo: tznius.com)

Raggedy Mom tagged me with this meme started by Mother in Israel. It certainly has some thought provoking questions.

1. For married women, do you dress by the same standards as you did when you got married?
I’m not married (but will be soon!) but I don’t believe that my standards will change.

2. Also for married women, do you and your husband conflict about this issue?
As I said in #1, I am not married (yet! LOL) but we have discussed this and we feel that it is up to me as to at what level I feel comfortable. For example, we discussed the headcovering issue and he said he would support me if I decided to cover my hair and that he would also support me if I did not want to cover my hair (shul and other necessary places excluded of course!)

3. Have your standards changed from when you were growing up, and why?
My standards have changed from when I was growing up because I grew up in a more “Reform” type home. When I started working on my conversion and as my observance level became higher, the tzniut issue became more important to me. And now if you looked into my closet, I think I could be a spokesperson for this place.

4. Do you often feel uncomfortable when you are in the company of a group keeping higher or lower standards than you?
Not really. Although in South Florida there are often times when lower standards means women wearing next to nothing…and yes that does make me feel uncomfortable.

5. If you have ever suddenly changed your standard of dress, did people treat you differently or make approving/disapproving remarks?
As mentioned in #3, it was pretty obvious when my dress changed. I work in a building with approx. 2,500 people and I am the only observant Jewish woman here, so I stand out for my dress and my race. Being in South Florida, I hear “Geez, aren’t you hot?” or “I can’t believe you are wearing stockings in this weather” quite often.

6. How accepting is your community of women who "deviate" from the generally accepted mode of dress?
The community is very mixed and therefore pretty tolerant of the various modes of dress.

7. If you have a daughter, has tzniut become an issue yet?
It’s not an issue and I don’t think it will be because she has always been a skirt/dress wearer from before she could even talk. She feels more comfortable this way and she has always been aware of her clothing because as she likes to say, “No one should be seeing MY business.”


RaggedyMom said...

Thanks, Orieyenta! Great answers! It must be a whole different ballgame dressing with tzniut in South Florida.

When I read what people's comments to you are, at first I thought you wrote that people are saying, "Gee, you're hot!" LOL.

orieyenta said...

RM - that's too funny because LO always says, "I'm so hot...and I don't mean I'm pretty." The things they learn at school.

I love the warm weather here and couldn't imagine living anywhere else but there are certainly moments when it is 97 degrees outside with 200% humidity and I question my sanity when I am wearing a skirt down to my ankles, a long sleeve shirt, and a sweater!

torontopearl said...

Interesting to read your responses; I responded in RaggedyMom's comments section on that post.

I also thought you meant that guys think you're hot...as in a babe. I'm guessing you're hot and hot! :)

LO is such a bright and precocious child, isn't she? She definitely seems the type to always have something up her (long) sleeve!

Kol Ra'ash Gadol said...

Um - why sweater? Couldn't you manage without that and still be tzniusdik?
I live in a rather hot and humid environment (well, actually, in the summer, hot and humid, in the winter cold and humid, which in its way can be just as bad) and have managed to be professional and tzniut (IMO) without sweaters in summer (Granted, when I have to weara blazer, that isn't much better, but most of the time I can get away with just a 3/4 sleve blouse). Is this a Florida-observant-community thing? Or is the sweater for some other purpose

Z said...

That's so cute :) I will adopt that saying. Thank you LO!!!!

orieyenta said...

Pearl - Yeah the whole tzniut look - I'm sure guys think it's hot. LOL.

KRG - When it's 97 degrees outside, most places (like my office) have the air conditioning turned down to around 60. At that point even the long sleeves and skirt are not enough. I've gotten so used to wearing sweaters that I forget to take them off when I go back outside until I realize I am schvitzing!

Z - I'm sure it will get you a laugh or two!

Annie said...

As a little kid I (like LO) wore dresses/skirts exclusively, but then as I aged I decided to wear pants, then back to skirts, and now a combination.

Also: I grew up in a really warm (read: tropical) climate, and skirts were actually more enjoyable than pants. I imagine that its the same in Florida.

Amishav said...

I'm frankly amazed that you cover up as much as you do in Miami- do you carry a towel to soak up all the sweat? Still big props to you for sticking with your values even if it makes you physically uncomfortable from time to time!

Kol Ra'ash Gadol said...

Oh, duh! *smacks forehead*

Marli said...

Wow! I am in love with Funky Frum. <333~! I just recently decided to up the tznius after a particularly bad incident with a creepy stalker guy.