Tuesday, November 13, 2007

Planning and more planning

We've got time until the "Big Day" but for some reason in the past few days we've been talking about it a lot so...of course, now I am FREAKED out.

I'm ashamed to admit that I never attend big events since I don't love crowds, so as far as wedding planning goes, I have no idea where to start. Ok, maybe that's exaggerating a bit. We have asked the Rabbis to perform the ceremony and they have both said yes. (One Rabbi is the Rabbi from our Shul and the other Rabbi is one of PHD's close friends.)

Anyhow...I need all of your help. Any guidance, ideas, tips, etc.

We've picked out a ketubah but I don't love the phrase on it. We can change it but I don't want to go with the standard "Ani L'Dodi V'Dodi Li". Any suggestions?

How about wedding invitations - English only, English and Hebrew?

Oy....thank goodness I have months and months to take care of this. It should really be much easier than this.


Jack's Shack said...

but I don't want to go with the standard "Ani L'Dodi V'Dodi Li". Any suggestions?


Suzsqueak said...

I would go with English and Hebrew for the invites, but I think they tend to look really beautiful with the hebrew on the invite. At least put your names in Hebrew on it. As far as something other than Ani L'Dodi V'Dodi Li, I'm at a loss myself for a suggestion, but I'll let you know if I think of anything.

torontopearl said...


Check this out and the meaning behind this particular ketubah; I think it's lovely.

The invitations should have Hebrew and English; I agree with Suzsqueak about your names being in Hebrew.

torontopearl said...


Oops, try this link

Another meshugannah mommy said...

Get yourself a wedding planner. I am very, very serious. It will cut down on your stress - even if you just have someone for the day of the wedding.

I would check out the Song of Songs for verses you might like. I'll bet your Rabbi could be of help...

Jewish Deaf Motorcycling Dad said...

Being a bit of a nature guy, this is the one we got: http://www.alljudaica.com/detail.asp?bid=5145&catid=70230

I agree with the Hebrew and English. I couldn't read half my invite, but it looked nice. And it did help in a way, I was able to learn things like "Brooklyn" and "N.Y." :-)

You can kill two birds with one stone... serve girl scout cookies at the wedding! (unless you are going with meat...)

orieyenta said...

Jack - you know I expect more than a "hmmm" from you ;)

Suzsqueak and Pearl - I agree. I think we need Hebrew names at the very least!

AMM - I think our event may be a little small for a wedding planner. We hoping for no more than a minyan!

JDMD - Couldn't read half of your invite? Sounds like us...if there's no vowels, we're in trouble! As for the girl scout cookies - mmmmm, great idea! I love your ketubah BTW.

Kol Ra'ash Gadol said...

English and Hebrew (I like parallel columns, that looks really good)
Verses: lots of verses in the Shir hashirim, of course: how about many waters cannot quench love, neither can thefloods drown it. My sister used that. Of course, she lives in a place that gets hit by hurricanes a lot.:)

Leah in Chicago said...

You might want to pick up Anita Diamant's New Jewish Wedding.

No more than a minyan? You, PhD, two rabbis and only six more? How can you only pick six bloggers when we are so great in numbers?

erm, I mean... the J blogosphere will be there in spirit.

Definitely Hebrew on the invites (with english.)

RaggedyMom said...

I like the idea of Hebrew and English together too, as long as you know your audience and that there's not too much unneeded Hebrew technical text if there are those who won't be able to follow it (I felt this way for some of our guests).

I'm trying to think of some Ani L'Dodi alternates . .

Tamara Eden said...

Hey there, sorry I haven't been dropping by as much. I was going to email this but perhaps others can use some of this stuff too :)

As you know, I too have a wedding to plan. It stresses my other half out to no end. He too is not big on big crowds and such. Until the day passes, it will be stressful.

Anyway, this post allows me to ask you what your religious background is. I mean, do you go to a Conservative? A frum? shul? I think that makes a huge difference as to what you do.

Personally, we are the most observant in our family so I think I'm not going to get benschers for our day. I don't know if ANYONE there besides us and a few friends will even be familiar with the Birkat Hamazon. Of course I will order yarmulkes. One idea I like is having the flowers match the yarmulkes. Sound funny? A girlfriend just got married and her lovely orange flowers and the orange leather yarmulkes looked amazing. :)

As far as invites, again, will the guests know Hebrew? If not do the names and perhaps even dates in Hebrew. If there is a quote on the front of the invite, Hebrew and English might be nice. Another consideration is if it's more expensive and worth it?

Ok, for quotes besides "Ani L'dodi V'dodi Li". There are a couple others that are common that I saw on wedding bands when we were looking for his. As you know we had a civil ceremony so he has his ring already. Our's does say Ani L'dodi V'dodi Li...anyway...

"Ani Ledodi Vedodi Li" (Means "I am to my beloved and my beloved is mine").

"Ze Dodi Veze Re'ei" (This is my beloved and this is my friend.)

"Ha'ahava Hi Mekor Hachaim" (The love is the source of life.)

" Matzati Et She'ahava Nafshi" (I found him, whom my soul loves.)

"Ba'asher Telchi Elech" (Where you will go, I shall go.)

Oh, and I got the "New Jewish Wedding" book and it's really great.

Oh, one more cool link to share: http://www.weddingmapper.com/ You can make great customized maps to send out with your invites!

Tamara said...

Oh, and this Ketubah site, according to a Jewish friend who just married, has great deals and good quality.